Teenagers have a lot on the go and sometimes, despite their good intentions, their goals slip away as other events steal the limelight. Following are ten tips for parents to share with their teens, to keep goals in the forefront and stay with them while life is happening in other places. 1. Put it in writing. Seeing the words gives a lot more power to your commitment. 2. State your goals with positive wording, so that you can see and visualize what it is you do want to happen. Rather than: I wont watch so much TV try I will spend 30 more minutes a day studying. 3. Make sure your goal is easy enough to guarantee you will achieve it. A goal should not be so big that you start to feel burdened at the thought of it. As you begin to meet your goals, the good feeling will give you momentum to challenge yourself with goals that are a little tougher. 4. Parents and teens: Work together to set goals everyone can feel good about. Parents: let your kids choose their goals. Your job is to guide them in the right direction. Teens: Pick goals you believe in. Believing in your goals will help you stay committed to them. 5. Prioritize goals in different ways. Easiest to hardest. Most important to least important. Make sure you have some goals that are fairly easy to meet. Weave the more satisfying or fun goals in and around the more essential and harder ones. Dont make your goal Clean my whole room tomorrow. if your room is carpeted with months of clothing. When you set your goals so they are not too hard to achieve, you increase the chances you will feel great once you start to accomplish them. And that great feeling will help you to keep following through on your promises to yourself or your parents. Then it will be easier for you to master important goals that dont inspire you. 6. Remember the 3 week habit. If you can hang in doing something for 21 days, it becomes automatic. You might be trying to start a new good habit, or get rid of an old bad habit. You dont have to practice your new habit every single day for 21 days, just practice in a regular pattern such as every Monday, Wednesday and Friday, for three weeks. 7. Have ways to measure your successes. This does not mean compare to what others can do. You will know if you are successful by how you feel. If a visual reminder of your successes helps to keep you motivated, chart them or hang a checklist and watch your successes accumulate. 8. Plan big and little rewards for yourself. Plan for the little rewards to happen along the way. Collecting your rewards will keep you going. A big reward is something you might want to plan for at the end of the semester. 9. Dont have too many goals at once. You will want to run from too much structure or pressure! 10. Notice if you feel overwhelmed, discouraged or drained from working on your goals. Revise your goals or your expectations of yourself so you dont fizzle out on them. |
