A guy recently emailed me a GREAT question that stumps everyone I meet. It has to do with a simple challenge, but one that most of you would love to handle better. Lets hear what he has to say:

Stephen,

First of all, thanks for all of your solid advice over the years. I am a huge fan of yours, and Mike too. Your dating and fashion advice are number one, as far as I am concerned. Recently, I have improved a lot of my dating woes and am meeting lots of women. However, when it comes time to go for the phone number, I get all tongue-tied and confused. Help me out man! What is the best way to ask for her phone number?

Thanks a lot!

Owen
Los Angeles, CA

Good question Owen, and thanks for writing us. So, let me guess, you spotted her in the mall, you approached her, you have had a great conversation, but you feel clueless when it is time to take it to the next level and get her phone number? Yep, that problem is common

Lots of guys get hung up when it comes time to close the deal. They dont know what to say, so often they wont say anything and just split!

How many times have I heard women exclaim, Why didnt he ask for my number? I would have given it to him in a heartbeat!!

The best way to get her number is, of course, to ask her. If she is into you, it wont matter how you ask her she wont care! However, if you want a solid script to use, which helps you feel prepared here is the best one yet:

I have to run, and so do you, but I would love to continue this some other time what is your number?

I know, I knowit couldnt be that easy

But guess what IT IS. Thats really it guys!

You graciously tell her that you have to leave, and you let her know that you also realize that she has to go too. Also, by exiting, you indicate to her that you are a busy guy and dont have all day to chat. Then, you set it up as a continuation of what has already been started. People are less likely to feel uncomfortable continuing something (unless she doesnt feel comfortable around you) than they are starting something completely anew.

If you dont get her number with this script, something is wrong with your presentation or conversational skills. Or, maybe shes just having a bad day

In any event keep it simple, and just be sure to ask. And remember, if she likes you, it wont matter how you say it. So, be sure to be playful, humorous, build a little intrigue, reveal some interesting facts about yourselfcover the basics.

Otherwise, use this to your hearts content. Unlike some of my friends, I wont even charge you royalties to use it!

Stephen N.

Stephen Nash (AKA "Playboy" from Neil Strauss' "The Game: Penetrating The Secret Society of Pick-up Artists") teaches men how to build healthy relationships with women. His company Cutting Edge Image Consulting (CEIC) helps men in the areas of dating, fashion and style, lifestyle, and developing strong social skills. He understands the nature of being attractive to women, and teaches men how to present themselves with power and integrity. The focus of CEIC is in helping men to develop a healthy, empowering self-image, which naturally helps them in the areas of dating and relationships.

Stephen also helps men develop a fashion sense and style - a personal "look" which is right for his personality and lifestyle. He strongly believes in developing a lifestyle that is both empowering to ones self-image but that also is attractive to women. This aspect is critical when seeking women for a relationship, and can be cultivated to consciously help men meet the right women for themselves, and to then help develop a relationship. Overall, his approach to meeting and dating women is to develop yourself into a magnetically attractive man, one that leads an autonomous life with an attractive sense of style, living a life full of positive, healthy emotions with the social tools and skills to attract healthy relationships with women.