Im in my late fifties and have learned a lot about women. While Im no expert, I think I can write with some authority. I was married for nearly 30 years to one woman before she passed away. Today, Im happily married to another and I hope shes as thrilled with me as I am with her. And why shouldnt she be? I treat her very well. And my late wifes friends would attest to the same thing. I took good care of her too. Its a relatively easy task to accomplish and it begins with an attitude. Think of why you are with that special lady. Isnt it to please her and have her return the favor? You dont even have to strain yourself or plan elaborate events. Just do the little things that she will come to appreciate. Tell her you love her, and do it often. Hold her hand while you walk together and sit next to her when you eat out. Sitting across works when youre having lunch with the boss, but were trying to establish a bit of intimacy here. Give her a back massage. Make her dinner at home. Do the dishes. Clean the house or apartment, for no special reason. Buy her flowers and candles. Let her pick out different scents she enjoys. Let her decorate the house or apartment. Pick out everything together. Go shopping together, whether its at the mall or the grocery store. Do the yard work together. Watch tv together. Listen to her when she talks to you. Discuss your day, your work, your hopes and dreams. Talk to her. If something is bothering you, tell her. Ask her if everything is okay or if theres anything she needs or wants, that you can provide. Remember her birthday, anniversary, Mothers day, Valentines Day, and any other significant anniversary with at least a card. If youre at work, call her just to tell her you miss her. Be attentive and caring. Be inventive in ways to make her feel wanted and special. Hug her often. Notice I havent mentioned anything about sex. Sex is another way of loving and deserves a separate article. Suffice it to say, if you do all the things I have just listed, shell be more than willing to take care of any of your sexual needs. Pleasing a woman is the opposite of being a jerk and its not particularly difficult or painful. Just be kind, gentle, caring, and provide the security she craves. Leave your big, macho attitude at the door. Being a man isnt so much physical as it is mental. If you dont believe me, ask any woman. Shell be more than happy to tell you, if you allow her to do so while shopping for a new handbag or pair of shoes as a thank you. |
